If you’re having a particularly bad day, its possible to have a real downer on yourself and what you are capable of. You loose sight of your strengths, have no confidence in your abilities and you need a simple way of picking yourself back up and refocusing.

This is often best done through the eyes of someone else and the following exercise will help raise your level of self awareness and confidence in your abilities.

I have to say the first time I did the exercise I found it really difficult to ask the questions. Part of me really didn’t want to know the answers and the other part thought it was a little self-indulgent. So I emailed them to 5 people I knew would be honest, hit the send button and hid behind a cushion for 24 hours until the responses came back.  You know what?  I found it to be one of the most powerful and rewarding coaching exercises I’ve ever completed.

Stephen Covey sums it up:

Suddenly I saw things differently, and because I saw things differently,

I thought differently, I felt differently, and I behaved differently’



Ask Five People Exercise

Ask five people (whose opinion you trust and respect) from different areas of your life the following questions:

  1. What is the first thing you think of when you think of me?
  2. What one word or phrase describes me best?
  3. What one thing could I change for my own benefit?
  4. What do you value most about me
  5. What do you think are my greatest talents, skills and accomplishments?


Believe me this is great. Have the confidence to put it out there and just see what comes back.


See you soon